Situationship Test: What Has Actually Been Agreed?

Answer yes, no, or unknown. This is a reflection checklist, not a validated psychological test; there is no scientific pass/fail threshold.

• Have you both said what you want from the connection?
• Have you explicitly agreed whether you are exclusive?
• Do you make plans that become actual meetings?
• Can you ask about expectations without the conversation being repeatedly avoided?
• Does contact feel reasonably consistent for your circumstances?
• Are you comfortable with the arrangement as it currently exists?

Several “unknown” answers point to things you have not clarified. A “no” to exclusivity is not automatically a problem if you both want something casual. A “no” to being comfortable matters even if the chat looks warm and active.

Write down which question needs an answer. A relationship label matters less than whether the people involved understand the same arrangement.

Fictional chat: you exchange messages every day, but “What are we looking for?” repeatedly gets “Let’s just see.” That reply does not establish an agreement about commitment or exclusivity. High message volume cannot supply the missing answer.

Compare it with a casual arrangement where both people explicitly agree that they are not exclusive and feel comfortable. The number of messages could be identical while the expectations are very different.

Textopsy compares message share, who reopens exchanges, consecutive sends, and average reply gaps. A free preview can help check whether the recorded effort matches how the connection feels.

The optional paid report interprets sampled messages and suggests patterns. Its grade and status label cannot verify commitment, emotional safety, or future progression. Plans that happened outside the chat need your own confirmation.

A concrete question might be “I’m interested in dating exclusively. Is that what you want too?” or “I’m happy with something casual, but I need us to communicate about plans.”

Listen to the answer, including an honest mismatch. Then watch whether subsequent behavior matches the agreement. A test is most useful when it helps you ask a clearer question.